Consider this: Someone you love very much is driving down the road on a routine errand. It has gradually gotten darker outside. Suddenly, a truck driving without headlights veers across the road and smashes into your loved one’s car. Your loved one couldn’t see it coming, and could do nothing to prevent the crash. The truck speeds away into the night. Your loved one, while seriously injured, manages to find the cell phone and press the speed dial. You barely hear that your loved one has been in an accident and the location of the crash. You drive to the scene and see your loved one trapped in a crumpled automobile, both legs fractured, blood gushing from a large wound where his or her head cracked the windshield. Your loved one is confused and doesn’t know what happened. Your loved one sees you and, expecting a loving response, cries “There’s something wrong! I’m bleeding! I can’t feel my legs! I can’t move! It hurts! Please, please help me!” What do you do? Do you stand and stare at your loved one while he or she sobs uncontrollably and begs for your help? Do you walk up to your loved one and, instead of calling 911 or rushing to comfort, say to him or her, “You need to think more positively. Why are you acting this way? There’s no reason for you to be so upset!” Do you then scold your loved one, insisting that it is his or her responsibility to figure out what’s wrong and fix it? Do you expect your loved one to extricate him- or herself from the situation and drag him- or herself to the hospital while in excruciating pain, before he or she bleeds to death? When your loved one continues to plead for your help, do you ignore the cries, turn away, and leave your loved one in agony and feeling rejected and unloved? OF COURSE NOT!! When you hear your loved one’s cries, you drive as fast as you can to reach him or her, calling 911 on the way, giving them the exact location of your loved one’s car, demanding that the paramedics hurry! When you get to your loved one and you hear his or her sobs and cries for help, your heart breaks – you rush to the wrecked vehicle to hold your loved one and try to comfort him or her. You pray out loud; and assure him or her that you will always be there and that you will do everything you can to help. You cry with your loved one because it hurts you to see him or her in so much pain. When the paramedics arrive, you explain to them what your loved one has told you and make sure they are doing what needs to be done. You ride in the ambulance as it careens toward the hospital, because you can’t stand to leave your loved one’s side for even a moment while he or she is going through this ordeal. If your loved one lashes out at you or behaves strangely, you aren’t offended because you understand that he or she is confused and in pain. You stay at your loved one’s side in the hospital and pay attention to every detail of the doctor’s words and your loved one’s treatment. If your loved one isn’t healing, you insist that the doctor do something about it. You don’t mind watching over your loved one’s care, because you know he or she isn’t capable of doing it alone. Your know your loved one needs help. Now consider this: Someone you love very much is moving along is his or her daily life routine when things gradually begin getting darker. Suddenly one day, your loved one crashes. Your loved one couldn’t see it coming, and could do nothing to prevent the crash. He or she begs for your help. You come to talk and see your loved one broken, bewildered, and in pain. Your loved one doesn’t know what is happening. He or she, expecting a loving response, cries “There’s something wrong! It hurts! I can’t control my life! I can’t move! Please, please help me!” What do you do? Do you stand and stare at your loved one while he or she sobs uncontrollably and begs for your help? Do you walk up to your loved one and, instead of rushing to comfort, say to him or her, “You need to think more positively. Why are you acting this way? There’s no reason for you to be so upset!” Do you then scold your loved one, insisting that it is his or her responsibility to figure out what’s wrong and fix it? Do you expect your loved one to extricate him- or herself from the situation and find his or her own help, before his or her health and life completely deteriorates? When your loved one continues to plead for your help, do you ignore the cries, turn away, and leave your loved one in agony and feeling rejected and unloved? Consider this: Why is someone with a mental illness not as worthy of attention as someone with a physical illness or injury? Why do we tell someone having mental problems to “buck up,” “figure it out,” or “stop behaving that way”? Would we tell someone with severe physical injuries that they are weak because they need medication or other medical treatment? Would we blame and berate them for not making themselves better? Why, then, are the mentally ill expected to advocate for themselves?
© 2009 Noelle Marier
I was just reading the Bipolar Disorder blog on “About.com” and found an article called “Christianity vs. Psychology – Opposing Views?” It addresses from a biblical point of view the idea that Christians shouldn’t take medication or get treatment for mental illness.
Many people believe that those with mental illness are to blame for the disease that plagues their lives. These people would show compassion to someone with a birth defect or cancer, or go out of their way to encourage and help a person with any other chronic illness, but would condemn a person suffering from depression or bipolar disorder for taking medication that allows them to function comfortably and effectively.
Diabetics need to take medicine to stay alive and healthy. Would these people who say taking medication for mental health is wrong also deny medication to a diabetic, or refuse to take someone with a broken leg to a hospital for treatment, or tell a cancer patient he can’t have chemotherapy? It is cruel to blame the mentally ill for their disease, just as it would be ludicrous to blame a child with cerebral palsy for his disease. People with mental illness should be shown the same concern that one would show to anyone with a chronic physical disease.
The article is at http://bipolar.about.com/od/religion/a/christian_views.htm.
This post is a lead-in to my next post.
Hey, does anyone know where I could find a video of the Kite Man commercial put out by Pacific Power in Portland, OR in the 1970s? It was a public service announcement aimed at preventing electricity-related injuries due to kite flying. To this day when anyone says “Ever?” I shriek “NEVER!!” in my head, and when I hear the word “frogs” I immediately think “I like frogs!” I want to show the video to my children so they will understand me better…!
I just found the old Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup commercial (the one with Donny Most from Happy Days) on YouTube and showed it to my son – “You got chocolate in my peanut butter! You got peanut butter on my chocolate!” I also still hum the “Reese’s PEAnut Butter Cup” jingle when I eat a Reese’s. And we didn’t even have a TV when I was growing up – we had to watch the neighbor’s TV. My sister and I must have watched the neighbors’ TV more than I remember!
Why do we remember these unimportant tidbits from childhood and not the more important things? I was listening to “Radio Lab” on NPR the other day. The consensus was that our brains are supposed to keep significant details in storage, and fade out the insignificant ones while we sleep. Maybe I’m just not collecting enough significant details to replace the insignificant in the closets of my brain. Maybe the closets of my brain are like the closets in my dear grandma’s house – so stuffed with silly things that you couldn’t fit another thing in.
I cook bacon for my son’s breakfast every morning lately. The bacon smell swirls stubbornly in the air and won’t go out the open doors and windows. It refuses to be slurped up into the bathroom fan or filtered out through the fan over the stove. When I open the door after coming home from taking Benjamin to school I’m enfolded in a bear hug of bacon. But, it reminds me of my grandparents’ kitchens, and that’s one of those significant, important, comforting memories. I love that memory, so – hooray, bacon! And hooray for anything that brings a significant thought out of storage.